Nicole Spence Has a Very “Heady” and Real Conversation
July 12, 2009
I just love my guy friends we just always seem to engage in the craziest of personal conversations. Last night a friend of mine, hmmm let’s call him Jack. Jack and I got together with my girlfriend Jihan and a light skin guy friend of his, whose name escapes me at the moment.
We of course start knocking back the drinks and adult conversation. Jack starts talking about " Yea ya’ll can’t handle me, I’m Nasty in bed!" (Oh word) He explains that has been to several sex parties and all type of menages. Shut Up! Who knew I was friends with such a freak nasty!
So what else do you do Jack? He repeats a lot of shit Nic! But you know what this girl tried to do after she gave me head? What?! I screamed thinking its gonna be some real nasty shit like, peeing on him! Lol. This fool said she tried to kiss me! Wtf?!! Are we Ten?!!
Okkkkk was this a skanky girl that you wouldn’t have kissed otherwise? Jack says Nah that he’s been rocking with ol girl for a while now. So I repeat WTF is the problem then? That’s when he starts to scold me saying "Nicole are you serious?? That’s some nasty shit! That’s GAY! I’m not kissing no girl after she does that shit, not happening!
My response to Jack was then and still is : Grow up you Lame! Are you freaken kidding me??!!
Thank goodness my young lover(clue u in on him next blog..oooo child!) doesn’t share those bullshit hang ups! Jack is entirely too old 33 to be exact and shit almost got married to be walking around slinging lame ass sex! And yes I say it has to be all together wack, because he isn’t all in sexually!
Instantly it became all to clear why jack has always and will remain in the friend zone, I guess I have always smelled the wackness!
And of course he in true lame fashion, he has the ultimate double standard, his ass wants to be kissed after he eats a girl out!
Then What The Hell Is the Problem?!
I wish I could shout his name and command these women to stop sucking this fool’s d**k! But alas I can’t! But you know who you are Jack and Nicole thinks your super Wack!!
And now I’ll ask the rest of you men, do you have a problem with kissing after oral sex?!!
Young Black Men Don’t Know HIV Risks
July 12, 2009
A small survey of young black men from the South who tested positive for H.I.V. in their teens and early 20s found that most had engaged in risky sexual behaviors but thought it unlikely they would be infected, according to the federal Centers for Disease Control and Prevention.
More than half of the 29 gay or bisexual men surveyed said they had engaged in unprotected anal sex in the year before they were infected and had had sex with slightly older men, the survey found. Both are risky behaviors, yet the vast majority of the young men said they had not thought that they would ever be infected.
Young black gay and bisexual men are becoming infected with H.I.V. at alarming rates, particularly in the South, and health officials are trying to analyze their risk factors in order to refine education and intervention strategies.
“We need to make sure that H.I.V. infection does not become a rite of passage for young black men who have sex with men,” said Dr. Alexandra Oster, one of the authors of the survey published last week in the agency’s Morbidity and Mortality Weekly Report.
After the Mississippi State Department of Health notified the C.D.C. in late 2007 that the number of new H.I.V. diagnoses had spiked at a sexually transmitted disease clinic serving Jackson, Miss., , the agencies teamed up to do the survey. The number of newly diagnosed H.I.V. cases among all black men in the Jackson area had increased 20 percent between 2004-2005 and 2006-2007, but infections among those ages 17 to 25 had jumped 45 percent.
Nicole Spence: The 4th of July Sucked!
July 10, 2009
So my 4th was pretty much wack! Lol. I didn’t do anything other than start the day off getting faded with my Homie Wid crying and watching the Michael Jackson tribute on TV!
A cool day. That’s when I get a phone call, from a blast from the past, who apparently thought since it was the holiday weekend it would be a good day to start digging in the crates! We’ll call him Bob, Bob the builder, because he’s in construction.
Bob gets on my last damn nerves, and Saturday was the day that I had to tell him about his ass!
Bob and I were intimate, but there wasn’t any sparks! I thought and still think that he lacks intimacy skills and we most definitely didn’t speak the same sex language. Lol. I laugh now, but that shit used to irritate the f%@k outta me! Like first off he’s cool after 1 ight Session!! Yup he’s a One Nutter! WTH?? Come on brother, you’re like how old?? Let’s get it going again. And to make matters worse, he would take forever to return to the bedroom from the bathroom after the session. I mean I’m talking about a good 8mins! WTF was he doing in there??!! So of course I was annoyed and turned off like nobody’s business each time that this would happen.
Bob felt the cold shoulder that I intended him to feel and he inquired one day, that’s when I told him “We don’t speak the same sex language”! What! He screams Nicole you’re crazy!! Crazy?? I’m not, crazy! You’re the one who takes like 10mins to come out of the bathroom, and then walks around the apartment like there can be anything else to do round this b%@ch, besides the obvious! And do you know why he said he takes so long in the bathroom??!! This grown man who is highly educated and quite successful no kids having ass was doing??? He pees in the condom, to make sure there isn’t a HOLE!!! OMG! This is just wrong on sooo many levels, I felt instantly like I was back in high school sneaking a phuck with my high school boo who was also sexually challenged!
McNair Was Shot While He Slept
July 9, 2009
More details are starting to come out about the murder of former NFL quarterback Steve McNair and his 20-year old mistress Sahel Kazemi. According to the Associated Press, Nashville police believe that McNair was killed while he was sleeping. The evidence is leading investigators to believe that Kazemi shot McNair in the head while he slept on a couch, then shot him twice in the chest and then in the head once more. Before shooting herself, Kazemi apparently tried to position herself to fall on McNair’s lap, but instead her body slid to the floor and lay at McNair’s feet. The gun was found under her body.
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July 6, 2009
5 Signs He’s Ready to Propose
June 28, 2009
Read more love tips in our African American Love Blog
1. He’s extra helpful.
If your guy shows a sudden interest in doing dishes or picking out sheets at Bed, Bath & Beyond, he may be trying to prove he’s husband material. "Before he pops the question, he’ll subconsciously seek out ways to show off his domestic side," says Tamsen Fadal, co-author of Why Hasn’t He Proposed? "He wants to make sure you see him as a partner who pulls his weight."
2. He talks himself up.
Even though you have a career of your own and can take care of yourself, most men still want to be on solid financial footing (good job, decent salary, clear credit) before getting engaged. "It’s instinctual for men to want to provide for their partner," says Les Parrott, PhD, clinical psychologist and author of Crazy Good Sex. "So they’ll frequently point out their ability to do so in the weeks leading up to an engagement." That means he may brag a little about an accomplishment at work or casually hint that he’s receiving a larger than usual bonus.
3. He acts like you just started dating.
Think back to the past few weeks. Has your guy been unusually attentive? Maybe he’s brought you just-because flowers or taken you out on elaborate dates. "He’s pulling out all the stops to make sure that when the time comes, you say yes," explains Fadal. Yeah, it’s a tad sneaky, but he’s also making those gestures because he’s genuinely excited about the possibility of marrying you. "Planning a proposal reignites that new love buzz for a lot of men," says Parrott.
Beyonce’s Mother is Getting Fed Up
June 24, 2009
According to sources Tina has decided to leave Matthew Knowles and his controlling antics! Read below:
Hi Soulgirl
My mother is a friend of Tina Knowles. They often go to the same nail/hair salon together and catch up whenever Tina is in town. Tina told my mother that her and Mathew have been separated for at least a year now and are living in different homes even though they have kept their main house.
Tina spends all her time running around after Beyonce and Solange and focusing on the clothing line which has kept her busy through the separation. You won’t see them getting divorced anytime soon and they also remain dedicated to supporting both of their daughters. Mathew’s narrowmindness and lies have seen Tina turn her back on him and his dealings. She will always love Mathew but she can no longer live in his controlling ways.
The validity of it all is kind of suspect but I do hope that Tina has moved on because she can do so much better! Speaking of moving on in other Knowles news Beyonce was spotted in NYC at the “Show Your Helping Hand” hunger relief initiative kickoff Monday! 
While the hair is questionable she still looks happy! From what I hear she also teared down the house at her New York Show where hubby Jay Z made a surprise appearance… Why aren’t we surprised lol 
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Black News: Rihanna’s Reaction to Chris’ Deal
June 24, 2009
“Rihanna was told about the plea deal at 12noon and had no objection. Rihanna believes that this is a fair and just resolution of this case. She would like to thank from the bottom of her heart the district attorney’s office and LAPD that showed her only courtesy and compassion….Its inappropriate suffice it to say that now there is a stay away order in effect, I’m sure Chris will abide by that order.”
By MIKE STOBBE
AP Medical Writer
ATLANTA (AP) – A new Internet data map offers a first-of-its-kind, county-level look at HIV cases in the U.S. and finds the infection rates tend to be highest in the South.
The highest numbers of HIV cases are in population centers like New York and California. However, many of the areas with the highest rates of HIV _ that is, the highest proportion of people with the AIDS-causing virus _ are in the South, according to the data map, which has information for more than 90 percent of the nation’s counties and Washington, D.C.
HIV infection rates are higher in African-American communities, and high minority populations in the South help explain the finding. While that’s not surprising, the high rates seen throughout states like Georgia and South Carolina were, said Gary Puckrein, president of the National Minority Quality Forum, the nonprofit research organization that put the map together.
Of 48 counties with the highest prevalence rates for HIV that had not yet progressed to AIDS, 25 were in Georgia, according to the map. Those were counties in which more than 0.7 percent of the population was infected with HIV.
Lady Drama: Tameka Foster Needs to Learn to Use Twitter
June 23, 2009
If there’s a ‘Twitter for Dummies’ book available, someone may want to get a copy toUsher Raymond’s soon-to-be ex-wife, Tameka Foster.
On Wednesday, Foster performed a notorious Twitter snafu when she inadvertently posted a message to Star Jones on her public page instead of sending it as a private direct message.
"@starjonesesq my lawyer= horrible. Need the name/number of a good one in Atlanta," Foster submitted to the former co-host of ‘The View.’
Recognizing her mistake — and the fact that she just told the world what she really thinks of her divorce attorney, Randall M. Kessler – the 40-year-old mother of five then posted another Tweet asking, "Please delete this…it was a DM mistake. Not for ppl to see. I’m sorry."
Let’s Tell The Truth about Black Fathers
June 22, 2009
To paraphrase Caesar, as he stood over the gallant Marc Antony, I come not to bury our Fathers, but to praise them, on this "Father’s Day." Now, more than ever before, it is time to tell the truth about African American fathers.
I think of my own my father, who in my worst moments always made me feel as if I were the best thing that ever happened to him. He said it. I felt it.
I arrived in my parents’ lives when they were college coeds and, although little more than children themselves, they made the very adult sacrifice and decision to marry and have me as well as my two brothers who arrived less than two years later. Still a student our father waited tables, stood in the food line at our church—in short, he did all that he could to provide for his growing family. And he and Mother took us everywhere.
I can recall one morning, before my father stepped into the pulpit to preach, being beckoned from my seat to sit with him and, as he scribbled the final touches on his sermon, he leaned over and said, "I love you, Sandy Boogie." I smiled as he kissed me and waited for…well, something else. I could not wait to get back to my seat as I was mortified to be before the entire congregation. I looked at him and said, rather quizzically, "Daddy, is that all you wanted to tell me?" His reply, as he smiled was, "Baby, saying ‘I love you’ says an awful lot." I nearly cried, having felt ashamed of my own insensitivity, and he simply smiled, kissed me again and had the usher lead me back to my seat.
His expression, even in that most public of venues was no surprise—it was a given in my life. My experience, though, is not unique. It has been replicated countless times in the African American community. Yet, every day we are fed a laundry list of the shortcomings of African American men; rarely, however, do we tell the society, or each other, of their triumphs.
We are told from the loftiest perches and the lowliest assignations that they must "Step up!" and "take up their responsibilities as men." All the while these critics ignore the myriad ways in which they must and do swim upstream against the strongest of currents. Currents which threaten and, too often, do sweep them into the undertow of our society. By ignoring their reality we turn our backs on a history, which has treated them with contempt. They are incarcerated more frequently, fight longer odds and live shorter lives; and yet and still, they remain strong, willing to love, survive and thrive. And so, on this "Father’s Day", I’d like to expound upon their triumphs and contextualize their struggles. Any discussion which does neither, fails us all.
Ex NFL Star Michael Stahan to Marry Nicole Murphy
June 20, 2009
Looks like Michael Strahan’s post-NFL keeps getting better. Awhile back we announced that Strahan just signed a deal with FOX to star in his own sitcom this fall and now he’ll be marrying Eddie Murphy’s ex-lady, Nicole Murphy. The two have been dating for some time now and according to People Magazine, Strahan popped the question on a beach in the Bahamas.
"I have a great relationship and she’s a great girl," Strahan told People. "I don’t like to talk much about my private life, but I’m really happy."
Maxwell Comes Back after 8 years
June 15, 2009
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After an eight-year hiatus, Maxwell is back with his long-awaited offering ‘BLACKsummers’night,’ due July 7, and The BoomBox is the only place to hear every track off the new album. Beginning today, and lasting for the next eight days, we’re hosting an exclusive ‘BLACKsummers’night’ album preview. Each day we’ll roll out a track from Maxwell’s fourth studio album, including lyrics. Enjoy!
Black Love: Should You Date a gold digger?
June 15, 2009
I am a widower. My wife of 46 years passed away a year and a half ago. I recently met and felt very attracted to a woman. My problem is that she is reluctant to open up to me even though we have a great time together. We live about 1,700 miles apart. She has this mind set that poor plus poor equals poor and yet she claims not to be a gold digger. She has been married twice to rich men and has traveled everywhere. Her longest marriage was with a man who she says wasn’t affectionate with her. She has actually come right out and told me that I do not make enough for her style of living. Now I may be wrong but if both her marriages ended in divorce and she now has to scrape by while this "poor" guy with more money than she has at her disposal wants to be with her, would that not tip the scales in my direction? Or could it be she just does not want to be a three-time loser. This woman, whether she wants to admit it or not, has stolen my heart, and I have told her so. When I tell her I love her, she says thank you. We seldom talk on the phone though we were talking daily at first. I am at wits end, and I truly do not know what to do.
Madonna Gets a New Child: A Black One
June 15, 2009
BLANTYRE, Malawi – Madonna can get "Mercy," Malawi’s highest court ruled Friday. The court overruled a lower court, saying the pop star can adopt 3-year-old Chifundo "Mercy" James.
"I am ecstatic," Madonna said in a statement in which she also thanked the court. "My family and I look forward to sharing our lives with her."
Madonna’s lawyer Alan Chinula said he would now arrange a passport for Chifundo, which could take several days, and was awaiting word from Madonna on travel plans for the girl.
James Kambewa, a man who claims to be the little girl’s father, told CBS news "I’m crying. I need my baby. I don’t know where I can find any help," the network said.
But Peter Baneti, an uncle, said the family welcomed Friday’s ruling.
"We hope Mercy will be joining Madonna soon," he said by phone from his village just outside Blantyre.
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Shocking video of woman being beaten over her boyfriend
June 12, 2009
From Lady Drama at www.YourBlackGossip.com.
Click here to watch a woman get beat down something terrible in a beauty salon! This video is all over the net and after seeing it, all you’ll be able to say is “hayell nawwwwww!”
Rapper Bow Wow Tweets About his flings
June 12, 2009
This is what happens when Twitter gets into the hands of the wrong celebs! Bow Wow decided to comment on what it feels like when two women he’s had sex with become good friends! Read below for his insight:
Fellas, don’t you feel like a G when ya ex and another girl u banged or f*cked around with r now friends? boosts my ego up! like daaaayum ima pimp
wat makes it funny i dont think she knows! ha! im laughn lol….
I mean…he could be talking about someone else but…Timing is everything!
Update from Bow Wow:
deez blogs r funny. y err time i say my ex people think ciara? yall kno how many girlfriends ive had. maybe cuz dats da only 1 yall kno bout. Yall gotta stop assuming. those r assumptions. and clearly im not talkn bout dem. they r 2 great people. but im not referring to dem
Barry Bonds Separates from Wife
June 10, 2009
Barry Bonds’ wife has filed for legal separation.
The former San Francisco Giants’ slugger and Liz Watson were married in 1998 and have a 10-year-old daughter, Aisha.
10 Questions You need to ask before getting married
June 10, 2009
As wedding season rears it’s lovely head once again, brides and grooms everywhere are struggling to fit the wedding of their dreams into their recession budgets. Wedding and event planner Khadijia Mayo Morrow, owner of the Washington, D.C.-based Avant Garde Event Boutique, has all the answers.
Check out her responses to 10 questions everyone should ask before planning a wedding.
Desmond Hatchett is 29 years old and has 21 children with 11 different women. The Knoxville, TN native also works for minimum wage and can’t support all of his kids. The state is only allowed to take 50% of his paycheck, which doesn’t amount to very much for each child.
What do we make of Hatchett’s decision? This is clearly a question for Financial Lovemaking.
