Black Love, African American Love

Dr. Boyce Watkins says we need to forget about Chris Brown and Rihanna

Staff — Sun, 08 Nov 2009 19:08:52 +0000

by Dr. Boyce Watkins, Syracuse University

When I heard that Chris Brown hit his ex-girlfriend Rihanna, I was concerned and surprised. I also found myself irritated by the fact that many women, along with my teenage daughters, were quick to forgive Chris for his actions, primarily because they think he has a great voice and a cute face. I had little sympathy for Chris Brown, and doing something like that to one of my girls would’ve had him singing a cappella for the rest of his life.

But that’s where I have to get off the Chris Brown bashing bus. In spite of my frustration with Chris’ behavior, I cannot endorse the media’s decision to turn his relationship with Rihanna into a one-sided slugfest, committed by yet another violent black man whose rage consistently overrides his intellect. I also cannot endorse Rihanna’s decision to bring ABC News into her relationship, portraying herself as the completely innocent victim who was terrorized by the big, scary black man. Yes, she is the victim, but we all know that love is not that simple.

Let’s be clear: No man should ever put his hands on a woman in a violent way. We all agree on that. Not only is it morally wrong, but it’s an easy way for a man to find himself in jail (especially if he’s black). We should also agree that no woman should put her hands on any man. The second point might be subject to disagreement, but the truth is that you shouldn’t hit someone if you don’t expect to get hit back. While that person might end up being punished by the police, you might end up in the morgue. We can also agree that the disproportionate amount of force that a man is capable of inflicting is a legitimate reason that the man is more to blame than the woman, even if both parties are involved in a physical altercation.

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How Your Family Can Manage the High Cost of Health Care

Staff — Sat, 07 Nov 2009 01:20:00 +0000

Get health care tips from Dr. Elaina George – how is your family going to afford it?

Mother, Wife and Businesswomen: How do you Balance?

Staff — Tue, 27 Oct 2009 22:15:46 +0000

In this episode of Financial Lovemaking, Dr. Boyce and Tia talk with Towanna Freeman, an author, speaker, wife and mother on how to balance love, life, and success.

Man Shoots Boy for Having Sex with His Step Daughter

Staff — Wed, 21 Oct 2009 19:19:59 +0000

Your Black Love: 11 Reasons He Dumped You

Staff — Sun, 04 Oct 2009 00:51:05 +0000

I was flipping through a Women’s Health recently (I admit it), and I noticed an interesting poll. Women cited the following as the most common breakup reasons:

When I was little, it drove me crazy when my parents supported "no" with "because I said so." I always wanted a reason. I’m not sure if knowing why always helps, but perhaps if you know common reasons guys break up with girls, you’ll at least be able to see it coming. So, here are mine:

I Got Bored: I’ve read many different hypotheses on attention span, but my favorite is (Wikipedia):

"Continuous attention span, or the amount of time a human can focus on an object without any lapse at all, is very brief and may be as short as 8 seconds. After this amount of time, it is likely that an individual’s eyes will shift focus, or that a stray thought will briefly enter consciousness."

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Managing Multiple Baby’s Mamas: What Does that mean?

Staff — Fri, 02 Oct 2009 23:44:58 +0000

How do you deal with the challenge of having multiple children in multiple households?

Nicole Spence: What if your Girl Does Some Freaky Stuff?

Staff — Wed, 30 Sep 2009 21:40:13 +0000

by Nicole Spence , Your Black World

Hey guys,
I know I’m late but Let’s get busy( in my Aresenio Hall voice! Lol),
I have an interesting Dear Nicole letter read below:
the other night while getting some head from my girl she tried something new and stuck a finger in my azz and i nutted like i never before and it felt really good but i don’t want her to think I’m gay or something how do i tell her i really liked that shit damm why did it feel so good? i need to know because if felt so fucking good but i’m no fag is that acceptable? thanks
Wow!! My first reaction is that you’re not gay! But Let’s be clear if a man that I’m seeing asked me to put a finger in his booty, I would immediately think his ass was gay!!
I mean that’s just a hell of a request!
But you didn’t ask for it, your girlfriend just tried something new and it turns out you dig it! It’s actually kinda cool, that you guys are delving into uncharted territory like that. Sounds freaky but she is teaching you about your body. So that’s cool! And I don’t think you have to tell her how much you liked it, I’m sure she can tell by your reaction! Shooot if she likes to "Rep her city" as much as I do, she’ll be doing that shit again and again for that same explosive reaction! Congrats!!

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Dr Boyce on CNN Radio – Love and Money Conversation

Staff — Wed, 30 Sep 2009 15:40:18 +0000

Dr Boyce Watkins discusses the rules of Financial Lovemaking on CNN Radio.

Do you have to give an engagement ring back?

Staff — Mon, 28 Sep 2009 01:06:32 +0000

Nicole Spence: Limp Man on the Job – How do you Handle that?

Staff — Fri, 25 Sep 2009 03:10:35 +0000

by Nicole Spence

So a good friend of mine recently started digging in the crates, and began messing with an old flame!
These 2 dated years ago pretty heavy actually, ish happened and they parted ways. But now he’s back! The sex that she remembers was pretty fiery! Although she does recall having to initiate some of their sexual encounters. But it was still pretty Calente!
He’s about 8years older than her, so she was looking forward to the whole " daddy" experience. Unfortunately things "down south" haven’t been quite the way she remembers, while talking over Patron shots, she asked me if she should give him the ol Heave hoe!
Here’s the skinny!

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